Pet Peeves

This blog is a little bit of a rant. So if you don't want to "listen" to me rant, then don't read it. Now normally I would rant in private, but this rant is a result of a blog that I created. So aside from ranting in private, I am going to rant here as well since the message just doesn't seem to be sinking in with a few people.

I have a couple of pet peeves that are the quickest way for me to anger. One of these I have ranted about quite often. It has come up in any interview I have done with "celebs" who have a blog and made themselves more accessible to those that choose to consume what they put out. That pet peeve is the internet troll.

Another of my pet peeves is gossip. I LOATHE gossip and gossipers. I LOATHE those who talk behind other people's backs and don't have the balls to say what they have said to someone else to the person that is the topic of conversation's face. Now I am not saying I do not talk about people when they are not present. I do. However, this is how I am different. As a general rule, I do not use names. So if I may need to vent about someone, I never give out enough detail that if it were to get back to them, it would upset them. I normally vent about situations and leave people out of it. If I am going to talk about someone and further use their name (whether good or bad) I let them know right away that I have talked about them and what was said. This is to eliminate future suprises and possible moments of embarrassment if it does get back to them, good or bad. And I expect the same respect in return. Especially from those that I consider a friend. My real friends know how much I LOATHE being talked about even if what they are sharing with other people are good things that are going on in my life. If I want people to know something about me, it is my job to share it and no one else's. Good or bad talk, in my mind it is all gossip. And in turn, I do the same thing. I leave it up to the person who is sharing with me to choose who else they want to share that information with.

And my final biggest pet peeve is when people make assumptions about others. This can be assumptions about goings on in their lives, what they are thinking, things they have done, things they have said, etc. I can never understand this. Is it too much trouble to ask someone for clarification? Honestly. How much effort does it take to ask someone what they may or may not be referring to, thinking, doing, etc., instead of assuming you know what they are referring to in the event they are either being cryptic or if the situation is just plain ole unclear? Would it hurt to send an e-mail or pick up the phone? You know, communicate.

I thought these were my top 3 pet peeves. But I have today discovered a brand new button that has sent off on all kinds of rants and that is sure to get my blood boiling for hours. Normally I can shrug most things off but its been hours since this has been brought to my attention and my blood is still boiling. I am so angry at this moment that if I were to confront the people involved about this right now in person (e-mail or telephone) the "friendship" would be over, no ifs, ands or buts about it. So I am going to address it to some extent here since this blog is not secret and anyone is free to read this including the person/people that have made me realize a new pet peeve. This new pet peeve is when the above three pets peeves are combined to some extent. Yes my friends, they can indeed be combined as I have witnessed myself. Today, the above three things have converged into one HUGE ball of something that I HATE. It has now gone beyond LOATHE.

This latest thing actually made me seriously think whether I should continue to blog or not. I started this blog as a way to purge some of the millions of thoughts that may go through my head during the day. And interestingly enough, some find those thoughts interesting. I also started this blog to share some of the things that go on in my life that people will be interested in regardless if they know me or not. I never thought (and I know this is very naive on my part) that my blogging about something that is going on in my life that is of a personal nature (but I needed to share some of it to release some of my excitement) would turn into assumption and conjecture, and then gossip (the before mentioned from "friends") and then rude e-mails in regards to work related things! I blog one thing and it gets turned into something it is completely not. Not even in the same realm of reality to what is really going on! It is like that game telephone where you whisper something in one ear, it goes down the line and by the time the last person says it, its note even anything close to what the original whisper was. I could forgive it if it were some anonymous person that did this. But because it is someone that I know, as of this moment I am very unsure if I will be able to trust them with anything again. I expect people I don't know to do these things. I do not expect this from "friends". I do not like feeling as if I am now going to have to guard myself and my privacy even more and be even more choosy about the things I choose to share with anyone, friends or anonymous reader of my blog.

Yes trolling is going to happen no matter how much it may piss me off. Yes gossip will continue. Yes people will continue to make assumptions. However these things should NOT happen from someone whom you consider a friend especially when they know how I feel about such matters. I am very accessible. I make myself very accessible even to people I do not know. There are a ton of links right here on my blog where people can get in touch with me and ask many anything they want or make any comments they want, to me, directly. And those that know me in person have even more quick and easy ways where they can in touch of me any time during the day. As far as friends are concerned, there are no excuses for this at all!

/rant


julia sherred